Sure, golf and business go together. But, 1) I never thought I’d be a golfer, and 2) I certainly never thought I’d learn anything about business by taking golf lessons.
Let’s backtrack a little.
My wonderful partner, Steve, is a sports fanatic. Golf, hockey, baseball, basketball, ughhh the list goes on and on. TSN highlights are a constant in my life. (I do like it when he watches dog shows, though… That’s a sport, right?)
Since Steve and his parents are avid golfers and I had hit a few balls at the driving range in my younger days, I thought it might be nice to join in on the “fun”. About 4-5 years ago, I expressed my interest to my dearest hubby and bam! I was immediately outfitted with a set of clubs and fancy shoes. Then I was promptly marched to the golf course for a round.
Steve believes in diving in head first.
I was all, “Hold up a minute! I don’t even know how to play,” but he kept insisting that the way to learn is by doing.
Well…. maybe for some.
You see, I don’t like being shitty at things. Sure, no one does. But I hold myself to high standards, be it business or athletics. (I admit that these high standards often only serves to cause anxiety than anything. I’m working on that.) Sucking makes me uncomfortable and embarrassed. This isn’t something I’m proud of, but it’s true.
And, obviously, I was going to suck at my first round of golf! But I wasn’t okay with that. So, can you guess what happened? I mayyyy or may not have had a couple of hissy fits on the course. Not my finest day.
The thing is… I didn’t learn anything from that first round of golf. Not a thing. I even managed to convince myself that the next round would be better.
And a couple of years after hanging up my clubs, I still didn’t learn my lesson. So I shouldn’t have been surprised when I also sucked at downhill skiing.
You don’t even want to hear that story.
You might think I’m crazy, but this summer I decided that I was finally going to put those brand spankin’ new golf cleats to use. But I decided I was going to learn my own way. I’ve gotten wiser with age…
Finally, I realized that just because my hubby learns by diving into the deep end without floaties doesn’t mean that I won’t drown.
I realized that I really like step-by-step instruction and learning by example. That I’m not comfortable with being uncomfortable. And that when I’m uncomfortable, I’m not able to learn.
The beginner’s mindset is what works for me whether I have prior knowledge of something or not. I like to begin with the basics.
And guess what? After embracing how I learn best, I’m thriving. And I freaking LOVE golf! Because I’m doing it on my own terms.
So, what has this taught me about business?
That learning styles are applicable even when you’re wayyy out of school! Growing up in the 90’s, there was so much talk about different learning styles – kinetic, auditory, etc. – but it’s as if I completely forgot how much that stuff actually applies to real life the minute I left university.
Heck, I even have a degree in secondary education! This shit should be engrained in my brain. But alas, it’s easy to forget things you’re not regularly exposed to.
When learning a new skill, I gain confidence by having someone show me what to do from start to finish. That’s why I take so many online courses, like Create Your Laptop Life and Flawless Funnels. I might already have knowledge of a topic like Facebook Ads and sales funnels, but I build confidence by going over step-by-step instruction to solidify my knowledge.
So, whether you learn by watching someone else do it first, by reading about it, or by diving right in, first just figure out how to recreate this positive learning environment for yourself.
Don’t let anyone else bully you into learning another way. What works for them may not work for you. So, if you want to be successful, you’re going to have to dictate the terms.
And sometimes in business, it’s just better to let others help you. You don’t always have the time to learn new skills. So, why not let virtual professionals like the Lantern team help. Learn the art of smart delegation with this FREE ebook!
Can you relate to my golfing woes? I’d love to hear about it (if maybe only to make me feel better tantrum…)! Comment below and let me know how you learned to set yourself up for success.